Losing a baby is sad, life changing and at times, lonely. Each woman’s experience and feelings are unique and for some it can be helpful to talk to others that have an understanding of these feelings. Meeting other bereaved mothers and having a safe place to share, listen and find a peer support system is the why Still Supported exists.
The Still Remembered Project formed Still Supported, a pregnancy/infant loss peer support group for bereaved mothers. The group meets once a month in the South Hills of Pittsburgh to give women a place to share and connect with others who are on a similar grief journey. We strive to educate women on grief and how grieving can be an emotional and physical process. Through group discussion, we are able to talk and explore our feelings, struggles and challenges of being in a “new normal” world after the loss of our babies. Our topics change each month and our mission is to touch on the many facets of grief.
We understand that coming to a support group can be intimidating at first. We encourage you to email us before attending your first meeting. That will help us learn a little more about you and give you the chance to ask any questions you might have about the group and our meetings.
The Still Supported group is facilitated by a committee of bereaved mothers who want you to feel comfortable and welcomed before you even walk through the doors of your first meeting. For some bereaved mothers, it takes time before they feel ready to attend a support group. We completely understand this. Support groups aren’t for everyone, each woman is different and is traveling their own grief journey. There is no right or wrong time to begin attending a support group.
Still Supported meetings are held the 2nd Thursday of the month from 7 – 9pm at the Panera Bread Galleria. The Panera Bread Galleria is located in the Galleria Mall on US Route 19 in Mt. Lebanon.
Frequently Asked Questions
We gather for dinner at 6:30 pm and start our meetings promptly at 7 pm. Meetings end at 9 pm. We meet the second Thursday of the month in the South Hills area of Pittsburgh.
When a bereaved mother attends a meeting, she is greeted by one of our Still Supported project committee members. Our meetings are always opened in prayer. Still Supported is a safe place and in order to help keep confidentiality, we review our rules for the meeting. We want each mom to feel open to talk, share and freely express their emotions. Therefore, our group does not compare grief or measure it. We believe that the loss of a baby, at any gestation, is a loss and every mother is entitled to feel her own grief. The meeting allows for time to share your name and a brief version of you and your baby’s story (if you choose). The meeting topics vary monthly, however there is always time for questions and/or open discussion. Support persons are also welcomed at the initial meeting.
No, we understand how difficult it can be for a bereaved mother to attend her first meeting. Sometimes a mom will ask us to share a little about her story, or just share her name and her baby’s name. We understand that each mother is unique and in time will feel comfortable to open up.
Yes! We have moms who attend our group who lost babies 10…20 years ago. We find that this perspective is often valued by mothers who recently lost a baby because it is evidence that healing is indeed possible. There is no timetable for grief or remembering your baby, so we welcome you.
Still Supported is limited to bereaved mothers solely because there are other pregnancy/infant loss couples support groups in the Pittsburgh area. We are the only bereaved mothers group in the area and topics and conversation tend to focus on a mother’s perspective. In order to make you more comfortable, a support person can attend with you at your initial meeting. There are no restrictions on this support person so a husband would be welcomed at this meeting. If you are looking for a couples’ support group, email us and we can share information on local groups.
Still Supported welcomes any mother who lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death. Many of our bereaved mothers have gone on to have rainbow babies and still need the support through their pregnancy/adoption process and beyond. Therefore, we may have expectant bereaved mothers in attendance.
There is no cost to attend Still Supported meetings.
In the past we’ve talked about coping techniques such as journaling and art therapy. We have discussed topics such as life after a loss, bereaved mother’s fears, talking with children about their sibling, handling the holidays/birthdays, ways to remember your baby, PTSD/stress management. Additionally, we have welcomed guest speakers, made craft projects, held memorial events and so much more.